It’s no question we live in a digital—always-in-front-of-a-screen—smartphone obsessed society.
Given the name of this blog, I should probably address my take on being a gentleman.
First off, what is a gentleman?
According to the dictionary:
gent·le·manˈjen(t)lmən/nouna chivalrous, courteous, or honorable man.“he behaved like a perfect gentleman”
Also, if you’d rather listen to this post rather than read it, then I’ve got the audio equivalent for you right here:
Ways To Be A Gentleman
There’s lots of history on what it means to be a gentleman.
It used to be defined by a man’s style of dress. Some would say it’s about chivalry; opening doors for a lady or picking up the tab on a date.
Today it means so much more.
Being a modern-day gentleman is about more than dressing the part. And it’s about more than impressing the woman you’re courting.
It’s about compassion and treating others with respect. It’s about doing the little things to make the lives of the people around you easier.
Being a modern-day gentleman today is about how a man contributes positively to the world. [Tweet this]
He has an insatiable thirst for knowledge and education, but an even greater thirst to create and communicate the things he has learned to contribute to a greater good. This is what defines him.
The great thing is that by practicing regularly, it becomes a part of who he is.
That being said, here is my list on what I feel makes up a modern-day gentleman.
Gentleman Within’s 51 Ways To Be A Gentleman
- Say “please” and “thank you,” readily and often
- Hand write your thank-you notes
- Open and hold the door for others
- Alway pay on the first few dates even if a lady insists on splitting the tab
- While on a date, keep your phone tucked away at all times, unless you want to show your her something that will add value to the conversation
- Tip appropriately and accordingly
- Speak your mind, but know when to keep quiet
- Go the extra mile when you know you can
- Give your all when you know you have more to give
- When in doubt, give more
- Ask others if they need a helping hand without the need for reciprocation
- Offer to help a colleague if you see him or her always staying late at the office
- Offer your seat to women and the elderly
- Offers words of encouragement to someone who really needs it
- Know what needs to be done—if you don’t know—find out and do it without being asked
- Have a firm, but not overbearing handshake
- Speak clearly and confidently
- Be confident in your abilities and what you have to offer
- Know when to wait your turn
- Do not disparage the beliefs of others
- Admit when you are wrong
- Do not pick a fight
- Be punctual
- Live as humbly as possible
- Rise to shake a person’s hand
- Give compliments sincerely and often
- Listen intently and be in the moment
- Show initiative and proactivity
- Pay attention to the details
- Go out of your way to ensure those you care about are comfortable
- Try to keep swearing to a minimum
- Have respect for others and their belongings
- Try your best not to judge
- Encourage others
- Embrace change
- Demonstrate personal responsibility
- Provide for your family
- Get up, dress up and show up
- Provide more in use value than you receive in cash value
- Help a stranger move her trapped vehicle out of the snow
- Smile more
- Learn to tie your own tie (the classics—Windsor, Half-Windsor, Four-in-Hand, Pratt, and Bowtie)
- Google anything and everything, instead of asking first
- Learn how to politely leave a conversation
- Be a man of your word
- Keep toilet paper stocked at all times
- Seek to make life easier for yourself, your family, friends, and others around you
- Speak up and stand up for those who can’t
- Be dependable
- Be loyal
- Have an open mind
- Dress for the occasion
There you have it, my list on how to be gentleman in today’s world. There’s 52 for good measure.
In the end, no one can be a gentleman 100% of the time, but striving to be one is courageous and always worth it.