51 Ways To Be A Gentleman

It’s no question we live in a digital—always-in-front-of-a-screen—smartphone obsessed society.

And with the dating apps craze more prevalent than ever, it has both men and especially women questioning, “where have all the gentleman gone?”

Given the name of this blog, I should probably address my take on being a gentleman.

First off, what is a gentleman?

Ways To Be A Gentleman | GENTLEMAN WITHINAccording to the dictionary:

gent·le·man
ˈjen(t)lmən/
noun
 a chivalrous, courteous, or honorable man.
“he behaved like a perfect gentleman”

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Ways To Be A Gentleman

There’s lots of history on what it means to be a gentleman.

It used to be defined by a man’s style of dress. Some would say it’s about chivalry; opening doors for a lady or picking up the tab on a date.

Today it means so much more.

Being a modern-day gentleman is about more than dressing the part. And it’s about more than impressing the woman you’re courting.

It’s about compassion and treating others with respect. It’s about doing the little things to make the lives of the people around you easier.

Being a modern-day gentleman today is about how a man contributes positively to the world. [Tweet this]

He has an insatiable thirst for knowledge and education, but an even greater thirst to create and communicate the things he has learned to contribute to a greater good. This is what defines him.

The great thing is that by practicing regularly, it becomes a part of who he is.

On Being A Gentleman | GENTLEMAN WITHINThat being said, here is my list on what I feel makes up a modern-day gentleman.

Gentleman Within’s 51 Ways To Be A Gentleman

  1. Say “please” and “thank you,” readily and often
  2. Hand write your thank-you notes
  3. Open and hold the door for others
  4. Alway pay on the first few dates even if a lady insists on splitting the tab
  5. While on a date, keep your phone tucked away at all times, unless you want to show your her something that will add value to the conversation
  6. Tip appropriately and accordingly
  7. Speak your mind, but know when to keep quiet
  8. Go the extra mile when you know you can
  9. Give your all when you know you have more to give
  10. When in doubt, give more
  11. Ask others if they need a helping hand without the need for reciprocation
  12. Offer to help a colleague if you see him or her always staying late at the office
  13. Offer your seat to women and the elderly
  14. Offers words of encouragement to someone who really needs it
  15. Know what needs to be done—if you don’t know—find out and do it without being asked
  16. Have a firm, but not overbearing handshake
  17. Speak clearly and confidently
  18. Be confident in your abilities and what you have to offer
  19. Know when to wait your turn
  20. Do not disparage the beliefs of others
  21. Admit when you are wrong
  22. Do not pick a fight
  23. Be punctual
  24. Live as humbly as possible
  25. Rise to shake a person’s hand
  26. Give compliments sincerely and often
  27. Listen intently and be in the moment
  28. Show initiative and proactivity
  29. Pay attention to the details
  30. Go out of your way to ensure those you care about are comfortable
  31. Try to keep swearing to a minimum
  32. Have respect for others and their belongings
  33. Try your best not to judge
  34. Encourage others
  35. Embrace change
  36. Demonstrate personal responsibility
  37. Provide for your family
  38. Get up, dress up and show up
  39. Provide more in use value than you receive in cash value
  40. Help a stranger move her trapped vehicle out of the snow
  41. Smile more
  42. Learn to tie your own tie (the classics—Windsor, Half-Windsor, Four-in-Hand, Pratt, and Bowtie)
  43. Google anything and everything, instead of asking first
  44. Learn how to politely leave a conversation
  45. Be a man of your word
  46. Keep toilet paper stocked at all times
  47. Seek to make life easier for yourself, your family, friends, and others around you
  48. Speak up and stand up for those who can’t
  49. Be dependable
  50. Be loyal
  51. Have an open mind
  52. Dress for the occasion

There you have it, my list on how to be gentleman in today’s world. There’s 52 for good measure.

In the end, no one can be a gentleman 100% of the time, but striving to be one is courageous and always worth it.

What do you feel makes up a modern-day gentleman? Share in the comments below.

  • Susan Winter

    Love your commentary. Thank you for this wonderful podcast!

    • Thank you so much for listening Susan! You’re very welcome 🙂